I consider myself a Developer/DBA.
That said, you've probably either read about or experienced the typical riff between the developer and the DBA.
At my current employer, I am finally surrounded by true Production DBAs. Initially, I found it difficult to work them. When I would ask "Why can't I do that?" I would rarely get a response.
Over time though, things have changed...for the better.
I believe it's called trust.
Trust that I am trying to do the right thing.
Trust that I want to learn.
Trust that I will listen to their suggestions.
Trust that I won't hack their DEV/QA instances using CREATE ANY PROCEDURE and EXECUTE ANY PROCEDURE.
Trust that I want to build a scalable and robust application.
So love your DBA. Give them time to get to know you. Give them time to learn your style, your methodology. Maybe someday they'll love you back and your job will get infinitely easier.